Dear Yee Sum, Dear Lok Lok,
Started last month, papa and mama would have an extra night out every two weeks for our romantic surprise date. It was arisen from our recently attended Marriage Course. We went back to CUHK and the Peak last month - some 'old places' where mama and papa met and also went dating when we first went out. Quite 'textbook' like romantic arrangement with candle-lit dinner, flowers, and gifts.
It's great, of course. As I have shared with you earlier, it's important to remain romantic after you get married, and even more so after you get married for longer and longer time.
This month, I have prepared quite a different romantic surprise for papa - we had dinner and played boardgames and video games with Uncle Dick and Uncle Eddy.
'Why?' you may ask. 'It doesn't sound two romantic with two other uncles??!!'
Well, I think, what's really important is not a 'textbook' case study on romantic date. It is really a personal thing. To mama, a surprise element and the fact that papa has spent the time and effort in arranging the surprise is itself romantic and pleasing enough for mama. As for papa, mama just wants to make him happy. And I know papa would enjoy the boardgames so much - we haven't got a chance to play since Lok Lok's birth 9+ months ago! And the only time we played since Yee Sum's birth was when we were at the hospital, waiting for Lok Lok's birth!
Really, our date is really an excuse to let us do something special for one another, to really please him/her and to make him/her happy.
And you know what's the biggest benefit? It's not just the joy on the surprise dating night. The joy and excitement were actually there all the time when I started planning and preparing this special evening for papa, and also whenever I thought about and guessing what papa might have prepared for me this month!
I guess it's what love really is about - that when you try to love one another and put love in action, you are then fully immersed in the sweetness and fullness of love.
So, Yee Sum, Lok Lok, put your love in action, too! Your love for Jesus, papa, mama, family and friends around you... don't just leave love in your heart!
Love,
mama.
Wednesday, July 01, 2009
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Frequency
Dear Yee Sum, Dear Lok Lok,
Mama needs to adjust the frequency of this weekly letter to once every two weeks for now.
After venting out all those I wanted to say in previous weeks, I found it increasingly difficult to find topics that I really want to talk to you about.
No worry. I'm sure they'll come when it's the right time.
Love,
mama.
Mama needs to adjust the frequency of this weekly letter to once every two weeks for now.
After venting out all those I wanted to say in previous weeks, I found it increasingly difficult to find topics that I really want to talk to you about.
No worry. I'm sure they'll come when it's the right time.
Love,
mama.
Sunday, June 14, 2009
Beans!!!
Dear Yee Sum, Dear Lok Lok,
Mama doesn't have any serious stuff to say this week. Just want to tell you how sweet it is to play with you, laugh with you, and simply be throwing beans with you!
Love,
Mama.
P.S. Lok Lok, just so that you know, you got your turn to throw beans around as well - after Yee Sum went to sleep...
Mama doesn't have any serious stuff to say this week. Just want to tell you how sweet it is to play with you, laugh with you, and simply be throwing beans with you!
Love,
Mama.
P.S. Lok Lok, just so that you know, you got your turn to throw beans around as well - after Yee Sum went to sleep...
Sunday, June 07, 2009
June 4th
Dear Yee Sum, Dear Lok Lok,
As papa wrote in his blog, papa & mama have been going to Victoria Park on the night of June 4th for many years. I don't want to repeat what happened on June 4th 20 years ago. I think you can find out about that by yourself as there are so many readings, writings, pictures, videos and all sorts of information about that.
As you grow up, mama would like you to think about:
1. Why would papa mama, and so many others, continue to go to Victoria Park this time every year, for so many years?
2. What were the things the students asked for when they went out in 1989? How are those those needs being met nowadays, in Hong Kong and in China?
3. If you were the leader in the Chinese government then, what would you do in facing this student movement?
4. If you were one of the student leaders then, what would you do differently? Why?
5. The economic development of China didn't stop after 1989. In fact it has developed very well in the past 20 years and China has become one of the most powerful nations in the world. Some people said that it proved the government has done the right thing in 1989, as it was most important to keep social stability for the better development of the country. Do you agree what they said? Why?
Mama is very tempted to tell you what mama thinks, and to give you leading questions to lead you to my desired answers. But I know the most important thing is for you to come to similar conclusion by yourself, so that will truly be your choice and your answer to life.
The only thing mama and papa can do is to show you what we think is right and why we think so. Hope you'll follow.
Love,
mama.
As papa wrote in his blog, papa & mama have been going to Victoria Park on the night of June 4th for many years. I don't want to repeat what happened on June 4th 20 years ago. I think you can find out about that by yourself as there are so many readings, writings, pictures, videos and all sorts of information about that.
As you grow up, mama would like you to think about:
1. Why would papa mama, and so many others, continue to go to Victoria Park this time every year, for so many years?
2. What were the things the students asked for when they went out in 1989? How are those those needs being met nowadays, in Hong Kong and in China?
3. If you were the leader in the Chinese government then, what would you do in facing this student movement?
4. If you were one of the student leaders then, what would you do differently? Why?
5. The economic development of China didn't stop after 1989. In fact it has developed very well in the past 20 years and China has become one of the most powerful nations in the world. Some people said that it proved the government has done the right thing in 1989, as it was most important to keep social stability for the better development of the country. Do you agree what they said? Why?
Mama is very tempted to tell you what mama thinks, and to give you leading questions to lead you to my desired answers. But I know the most important thing is for you to come to similar conclusion by yourself, so that will truly be your choice and your answer to life.
The only thing mama and papa can do is to show you what we think is right and why we think so. Hope you'll follow.
Love,
mama.
Saturday, May 30, 2009
The most important thing in University
Dear Yee Sum, Dear Lok Lok,
The most important thing for you when you're studying in University is... what do you think?
There was a famous saying from Dr. Shen Suen Yan, who was Head of Chung Chi College when mama started studying there. What he told us, in the first assembly of the school year, surprised us all. As he didn't tell us to study hard, or to find the calling of our life, or to make friends, or to get more different experience. But the most important thing in our University years, he said, was to try find our future wives or husbands.
That was quite a shock to mama, or even to any of my friends when I repeated Dr. Shen's words to them. Especially for mama's generation, which dating in secondary school was still not that encouraged. Suddenly, we were grown up and not only allowed to date but to get it done seriously, as to look for the other halves of our lives.
Mama didn't take Dr. Shen's words seriously at that time. But then, looking back now and looking around me, mama would say Dr. Shen's are really words of wisdom.
And though papa and mama didn't start dating after papa was graduated, we got to know one another indeed in University. And mama can tell it's much, much more difficult to meet the right person or to start a meaningful relationship once you start working. Not impossible, of course. Just a bit tougher.
So, spend your time wisely in U. (Well, it didn't mean spending ALL your time on husband/ wife hunting though!)
Love,
mama.
The most important thing for you when you're studying in University is... what do you think?
There was a famous saying from Dr. Shen Suen Yan, who was Head of Chung Chi College when mama started studying there. What he told us, in the first assembly of the school year, surprised us all. As he didn't tell us to study hard, or to find the calling of our life, or to make friends, or to get more different experience. But the most important thing in our University years, he said, was to try find our future wives or husbands.
That was quite a shock to mama, or even to any of my friends when I repeated Dr. Shen's words to them. Especially for mama's generation, which dating in secondary school was still not that encouraged. Suddenly, we were grown up and not only allowed to date but to get it done seriously, as to look for the other halves of our lives.
Mama didn't take Dr. Shen's words seriously at that time. But then, looking back now and looking around me, mama would say Dr. Shen's are really words of wisdom.
And though papa and mama didn't start dating after papa was graduated, we got to know one another indeed in University. And mama can tell it's much, much more difficult to meet the right person or to start a meaningful relationship once you start working. Not impossible, of course. Just a bit tougher.
So, spend your time wisely in U. (Well, it didn't mean spending ALL your time on husband/ wife hunting though!)
Love,
mama.
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